Intimate Relationships: Using Constellation Work to Free the Love
"A relationship begins with respect for the validity of that which is different. The basis of love lies in one's respect for another and for his or her family, just as they are." -Bert Hellinger

A fulfilling and satisfying relationship is important to all of us. Problems in relationships can be linked to the entanglements or invisible bonds with the fates of our ancestors. When this occurs, our relating can be taken over by negative experiences, fears and guilt that do not belong to us. We can free ourselves from these invisible bonds by directing our attention to our parents and that which came before them. This brings the entanglements to light, and provides new ways of understanding the dynamics of relationship.

Old relationships that are incomplete can also have a negative effect on a new partnership. Therefore, in a constellation we want to direct ourselves to the old partners with acknowledgment and care, initiating healing and completing the past.
Many times relationships fail because the partner does not take the step from a boy to a man or from a girl to a woman. A son belonging to his mother or a daughter to her father, rather stay lovers and mistresses, avoiding a deeper connection and a more satisfying committed union and partnership. In a constellation, the man will be placed with his father and the woman with her mother where they can receive the full strength and power of their gender.

Systemic constellations can also address those individuals who want to resolve old relationship concerns and/or want to be available for a new relationship. The systemic forces that impede finding, connecting and maintaining intimate partnerships will be explored.

"The relationship of a couple is embedded in a larger field with roots reaching far back in time through the ancestry of each partner. We grow from our roots, and are shaped and challenged by our origins, but we are also subject to their limitations. It is important for partners to find a common ground, despite their different roots." -Bert Hellinger.